According to Dr Gordon Patzer, author of Looks: Why They Matter More Than You Ever Imagined,
and one of the world’s leading authorities on physical attractiveness, a
lot of what women notice in the first few minutes is appearance-based.
“A substantial portion of the six features of a man are apparent, in
terms of height, weight and overall physical attractiveness,” he says.
And when appearances don’t make the cut, the door slams shut on further
interactions. Here’s a list of things to keep that door open.
1. Physical stature
Yep, you knew this already: size
matters. Height and weight are right on top of the list of things women
notice. “Too much or too little of either immediately classifies the man
as unattractive to women, and closes the door before less physically
obviously features (such as confidence) can be determined,” says Dr
Patzer. Take heart though, the acceptable range is influenced by the
woman’s own height and weight.
2. Appearances and attractiveness
Yes, beauty is skin deep, but it’s going
to get women to explore what lies beneath. Attractiveness does include
what you were born with, but your genes alone can’t scuttle your
chances. What really counts is what you do with your hair, clothes,
grooming and basic hygiene. If you can’t make the effort, women
certainly are not going to work hard to learn more about you!
3. Smile
Once women are done assessing your
overall build, women will look at your smile. “The ability to smile,
particularly within the first few minutes of meeting, sends a welcoming,
non-hostile signal to women,” says Dr Patzer. There is one proviso
though — the smile must show off reasonably good-looking teeth. It’s
never too late to fix an appointment with the dentist!
4. Humour
Another reason to show off those pearly
whites! Women like men who have the ability to laugh. Even better, make
the woman laugh. That instantly nets you bonus points!
5. Confidence
Women find confident men attractive.
According to Dr Sameer Malhotra, head of psychiatry and psychotherapy
department at Fortis Hospital in New Delhi, within the first few minutes
of meeting, women will not only suss out your level of confidence, they
will also interpret the vibes you give out and how you think. “Women
notice how clear or decisive you are and whether you approach things
positively.” Just remember, cockiness and arrogance are not the same as
confidence!
6. Conversation
Men have successfully given womankind
the impression of being strong and silent. So women aren’t expecting you
to have mad talking skills. All you’ve got to do hold her attention.
“We know (scientifically) that the more or longer that a woman gets to
know a man, the more physically attractive he becomes in her mind,” says
Dr Patzer. Women are looking for someone to keep up the conversation —
so forget the one-liners, just be yourself!
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