When she earns more
It
is no longer rare for men to earn less than their wives. Make certain
the situation does not create friction in the home with these
suggestions
Communicate
If you feel guilty about spending money
because you make less money than your spouse, talk about it. If you
resent your spouse because he is spending too much money also talk about
it. Remember to start any discussion about money in a loving manner,
without accusing him of wrongdoing. The two of you are teammates in
life, and should not treat things like a competition or a battle.
Once the lines of communication open up,
share your needs. If you feel that you need to have an equal amount of
spending money, share that with your spouse. Or perhaps you need help or
encouragement from your spouse in order to generate more income. Your
spouse will not always know what you need unless you clearly explain it.
Create a budget
Determine your income and expenses, as
well as how much discretionary income that you have. Then determine how
much spending money each spouse should get. Not only will this this set
the record straight but also serve as some form of check to guard
against extravagance. With your spouse, agree on a monthly amount that
you’ll each put into separate accounts, to be used at your discretion.
Shared responsibility
If two spouses are not earning the same
income, housework often makes up for the inequality. If one spouse works
longer hours, the other can make up by helping out with domestic
chores. By creating some form of equality, the relationship is stable,
and no one feels as though he or she is carrying the burden of the
family.One person is usually more interested in financial chores or
available to handle them, and as long as you agree on who is best suited
to a particular responsibility, it is fine for that spouse to take
charge of paying bills or drawing up the monthly budget.
Compliment each other
Acknowledge the fact that your husband
may experience a period of grieving after the loss of a job and earnings
that are connected to his identity, self-esteem and sense of success.
Convey a positive attitude and sense of teamwork showing that ‘we are in
this together.’ You can achieve this by paying compliments when he
deserves it and encourage him to work harder.
Ease the tension
Break the tension by finding new ways to
have fun. You can spend more time together doing the types of things
you enjoy doing as a couple. You can also visit friends and family or
take a trip.
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